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As a mother and a Neurodivergent individual, I am asking you to stand your ground.
Do not allow others to violate your boundaries.
- You will get pushback. Hold firm. Be respectful. Be polite. But Hold Firm. Do Not Apologize. You have nothing to apologize for. I am mom and I am telling you its ok to protect your healthy boundaries.
- You may lose family and friends. I have. They will not like you holding firm on your boundaries and they will tell you everything and try and sell you the moon- trust yourself. You know yourself best.
- You can respond respectively and politely without being a dick. Yes, sometimes being a dick is appropriate but that’s too much brain work, just roll your eyes and walk away. Save your brain juice for what you love , don’t waste it on idiots. . If they are unable to speak to you in a respectful way , it is ok to stay silent. You verbalize to stay safe only but do not over explain why, in fact refer them to this site and they can read at their own time frame to avoid unnecessary frustration and possible conflict. Just walk away.
- If you feel that you are being treated equally, file complaint. Filing a complaint can cause a company or educational system extra time and resources. Its busy work that hopefully they can learn from if enough of us do it. Filling paperwork and all the necessary crap is a huge inconvenience for almost everyone. If they have nothing to hide then they shouldn’t worry about it, but I know most individuals do not like regulatory services getting into their files. Its fair. Violate the law, appropriate action will be taken. A fair complaint warrants a fair investigation ,in my opinion.
But please understand, there will be pushback. You are stronger then you realize and the only way we can change this is by standing our ground.
Its time to start using that pathological demand avoidance in full force. Just say no. Make sure to use eye contact when you do it, don’t want to be impolite about it. Then Smile.